Saturday, December 31, 2005

Another solo New Year's Eve

This is another of those days when I am painfully reminded that I am single. And it seems permanently so. I have never had a date even when I had the nerve to ask (which is rare) and it is a bitch to watch others have that companionship on nights like tonight. New Years Eve! When people will celebrate the new year with someone special and maybe even share a kiss after midnight.

I have no idea what that is like. I wish I did so I could just get over it. But there are no plans for this evening. No one is interested. I can't even get the time of day if I asked. Because when people see me, they run in the other direction at a very rapid pace. So no date for me on New Years Eve. Never had one. And that is not going to change tonight.

I don't even want to see midnight come around. I have no one to share it with so I might as well go to sleep.

Friday, December 30, 2005

Thursday, December 29, 2005

Former employer to close shop

For a decade I worked at a facility in Macon Georgia and when I resigned from there earlier this year I felt as if I wasted a huge chunk of my life. That's because my former workplace had slowly and painfully deteriorated due to poor management AND the Macon area's pathetic work ethic. Education quality and individual egos also played a part in making an average workday difficult to deal with.

My former workplace was ripe with gossip over anything from someone's personal life to the possibility that our jobs would be eliminated. Most of the time, the gossip was just that. But the gossip did have many fearing that our workplace would close. And many who worked there would not be prepared for that possibility. Well today those fears came true as the announcement was made that First Data would move the Macon operations to facilities in Omaha Nebraska and the 300 positions in Macon would be eliminated. By spring, the facility that was originally opened in 1990 will be history.
(News Article)

When I heard this on the evening news today I was not surprised. First Data bought the Macon facility from GE Capital in 1999 and kept the Macon employees, adding us to the First Data payroll and maintaining all tenure. It was a promise of growth and prosperity. But instead things went downhill. There were promises of work and new clients that never materialized. An entire building at the facility remained empty for years. Then there were cutbacks and reshuffling of staff around the facility. When work volume did increase, people were worked to the max. We were forced to work lots of mandatory overtime and had fewer options in taking vacation days even when you had them available.

Outdated technology at the Macon facility created many problems and may have led to the loss of clients and work being given to the other locations within the company. Even regular maintence of the Macon facility itself became sub-standard. The floors were no longer as polished as they used to be. The employee cafeteria was reduced to a bunch of pricey, unreliable and unhealthy vending machines. Restrooms were unsanitary. Climate control of the facility was a constant challenge. Moral within the workplace reached an all time low. Few people cared about anything and those who did were ridiculed.

Life had become so depressing at work that many people who had given years of their lives to working there started to leave. Even if it meant relocating to another area. It was a tough decision for many reasons. Many First Data employees started working there when the facility opened in 1990 as Monogram and later GE Capital Credit Card Services. For some, it was a family. For many, this was the only job they had as an adult. And some may not have the right skills needed to find new work that will compare to the job and salary they were leaving behind. Also jobs in Macon are very hard to find. So leaving a job in Macon Georgia has to be a careful decision.

Many of us kept our jobs as we made a decent salary and feared the prospect of having to start over at the bottom somewhere else. But for some of us that prospect was worth more than working in a dead-end environment. Some retired completely. Others quit to focus on family businesses that were already in progress. And some just simply quit if they had no bills, a savings and/or a spouse who earned enough money for the family to get along.

I quit to attempt my own business and for peace of mind. I needed to make a change in my personal life. And my experience at First Data has converted me into someone who just cannot work for others. Because most of the time, my superiors there were bumbling idiots. I am not ashamed to say that I despised most of the management there. It happens to be that the members of management that I did like never stayed long. (go figure) One retired after she saw her department reduced by corporate management. And other members of management that I actually liked just wanted to take on new challenges somewhere else. And I should have learned from them much sooner. I would be in a better place if I did.

Instead, I hung on like everyone else to the one good job that I had. I put in my time, did my best and collected my paycheck. I accepted some of the "gifts" from the company, even though we would find them heavily taxed on our next paystub. And I had fun with many of the people that I worked with. That is the only good thing I felt when I left First Data in March, 2005 after 10 1/2 years.

So with the news of the closing of First Data Macon I must think about the people that I got along with over the years. I can call some of them friends. Mainly the ladies of the Card Services department. I won't mention anyone's name online but I will directly e-mail this blog to them and they will know who they are. These were working mothers who not only raised children at home but raised ADULTS at work who acted like children. But we all had fun working together. We shared music to keep the peace at work, we ate many great potluck dinners, celebrated our personal occasions and came to support those when they were sick or suffered a loss. Even after I left the company, these ladies supported me and my sister during the death of our mother which was only a month after I left the company. I never properly told them thank you for that! I do thank them all for that and many great memories.

There were a few gentlemen as well, but we were definitely outnumbered by many strong women. They have young families to raise and they have the smarts to move on to bigger and better things. Thanks guys! Be strong and be well.

I wish my former co-workers well and hope that this change in their lives will turn into a great blessing. Many of these people are people of great faith. I hope that faith will carry them through this.

There are more people who I don't feel sorry for at this time but they are not worth mentioning. Many of my co-workers know who I speak of. But this really affects everyone. It will be rough for everyone and it is time to move on with lessons hopefully learned.

Now lets say it all together "Free at last, free at last, thank god almighty, we are free at last". Now take your freedom, go forward and prosper!

Clean up on aisle 5, aisle 6, aisle 7.............

Last night after work I went to the supermarket to get a few things. Mainly I needed to buy greeting cards for a friend's wedding anniversary and another friend's birthday. But while I was at the store I decided to buy some grocery items. I did not really need anything. Actually, I wanted some Ben and Jerry's Butter Pecan Ice Cream!

It was almost midnight and as usual there was only one cashier on duty. There were several people with full shopping carts in line. Also, school is out this week for the holiday, so the teenagers are out having a little fun. There were several teens at the checkout line and their party was definitely in progress. That is until one of the teenage girls vomited AT the check out line. No warning, just a simultaneous movement of people moving out of her way along with the sound of a big splash onto the floor.

After a chorus of "ewwwws" from everyone present for this nasty occurrence one of the giggling teenage boys ran to look for another teen, and told his friend "We need you! Your girlfriend just puked! Right on the floor dude!" And the giggling teenage girls actually wondered IF they needed to find the bathroom while the girl who vomited looked as if she was ready for an encore performance.

Well, some of us weren't laughing. Actually I was quite disgusted by the episode. So I got the hell out of there! I suddenly lost interest in buying or eating any food after what happened and no one seemed to be in any hurry to clean up the mess. And that little girl covered some great territory. What (or shall I say how much) did she eat or drink to create such a large mess? Disgusting! Simply disgusting!

So I saved some money last night thanks to a teenage girl getting sick in the store. And it will be a while before I will shop at that store again. I have to get over the trauma of what happened last night. Yuk!

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

How to know what your neighbors got for Christmas without asking.

It is trash day and I am reminded of an easy way to learn a few things about my neighbors without asking them. I don't even have to know them.

If I were curious about what "gifts" my neighbors got for Christmas (which I am not) all I have to do is look outside before the garbarge truck arrives. And I'll have plenty of time today as the garbarge truck will be late. They will have plenty of extra work to do this week.

Lets see, one neighbor got a Dirt Devil vacuum, a cheap 32 inch TV from Wal-Mart, a DVD/VCR combo, a microwave oven, and one of their kids got an Easy Bake Oven (I always wanted one of those when I was a child!) and a new pink "Barbie" VW Beetle with flowers all over it. That Barbie bimbo has everything. Shouldn't she be settling into an old folks home right about now?

Another neighbor got a shelf stereo system, a SONY home theatre receiver with speakers, plus additional speakers AND an entertainment center big enough to hold a flat screen TV. I didn't see a box for the actual TV, perhaps they'll get that later. They even got a DVD Recorder!

Many neighbors got new computers this year. Most are the usual all-inclusive desktop PC packages you can get at Wal-Mart or Sams. I bet some of them were purchased the day after Thanksgiving in one of those really cheap sales.

And that house with all of the loud rugrats? Well there are toys galore for the kids including a radio controlled Hummer truck and the latest Playstation video game set, DVD/TV combos (probably for each child's bedroom), boombox CD/radios AND some small kitchen appliances. A blender, a toaster oven and a microwave (they got one of those last year too). And they must love Old Navy in that house. I see several Old Navy shopping bags full of trash too.

There are many who have new TV's and some who even got new VCR's! (They still sell those?)

I can tell that most of my neighborhood had a gift filled Merry Christmas. Sadly, many thieves also know who had a gift filled holiday. As usual, many households have given free advertising to anyone interested in knowing what's available to steal and someone will have their home burglarized in the very near future. The new trend is to have an increase in thefts AFTER the holidays instead of before. Instead of taking wrapped gifts of unknown value the thieves now know what's inside the home. Need to steal the new PlayStation? The house down the street has one. Or how about a Barbie Volkswagen? If you stole that from the house across the street will it be missed? You know Barbie has so many cars. Corvettes and such. And she could borrow Ken's Miata IF Ken's boyfriend doesn't have a hissy fit.

By the way, I wonder if Ken got a Hummer for Christmas? Yeah, the truck too!

Hey! Inquiring minds want to know. And I bet Barbie gets the Hummer Truck next year!

But I digress...

People should never put boxes outside that show anything! You should break those boxes down and take them to a recycling center or tear them apart and put them in your trash can or at least hide them in trash bags. Or do like I do, use them for stuff stored in the attic or re-use them as shipping boxes whevever I have to ship a large package to anyone. Just don't put these boxes outside with the trash where anyone could guess what expensive items may be inside your home.

Am I a nosy neighbor? Naw.

Monday, December 26, 2005

The last visit with a smile.

Today marks the first anniversary of the last time I saw my mother alive. It was during my Christmas visit to her nursing home in Ft. Lauderdale. I was still working for an employer and had a difficult schedule. So I could not travel as often as I would have liked to see her. My next planned visit was to be for Mother's Day. But that weekend would become the time of our memorial service for her.

After my visit, her health rapidly declined and she died in April. Much to the dismay of a few, I chose not to be with her in her final days. I did not want to watch my mother die. I enjoyed my visit with her last Christmas as she was smiling and in a happy mood. And I am glad that is my last physical vision of her. I believe that helped in accepting her death. She would no longer suffer and I was pleased with that.

I don't mourn the loss of my mother. I celebrate her life by living. But I must take a minute to reflect and confirm my utmost gratitude for all that she means to me and my sister.

This is also the week of my final visit with my grandmother two years ago. Again, that last vision of my grandmother was one of a smiling old woman in a very happy mood. A time of laughing and joking. And I am happy that she is also no longer suffering.

I have had my time with my Mother and grandmother here in this world. They did all that they could do and more. For that I am forever thankful and glad they are now at peaceful rest.

R.I.P.-People lost in 2005

At the end of every year, we often remember people who died during the year.



For me, this year really was personal as I lost my mother in 2005.
She had suffered from diabetes complications including a severe stroke in which she never fully recovered.



Along with my mother were many notable people who died this year. Many of these people were cherished by my mother and me while I was growing up.

I grew up listening to my mother's favorite music entertainers. People like Tyrone Davis, Little Milton, Lyn "The Female Preacher" Collins and Luther Vandross.


Other music legends you may not know of and we lost in 2005 include:
Reynaldo "Obie" Benson, one of the original members of The Four Tops.
Ray Davis, one of the founding members of Parliament-Funkadelic
Willie Hutch, singer and songwriter best known for his soundtrack for "The Mack" (1973)
R.L. Burnside , blues singer
Bobby Short & Shirley Horn, famous jazz vocalists

In mother's later years, they called her "Miss Ellie". I don't know how that started. Her first name was Elerwene. Maybe thats how it started. Anyway, speaking of "Miss Ellie", the matriarch of the Ewing family on my mother's all time favorate TV show "Dallas"...Barbara Bel Geddes died in 2005. And Peter Jennings died just four months after discovering he had cancer.

THE king of comedy, Richard Pryor died in 2005. So did comedian Nipsey Russell,
actors Brock Peters and the great Ossie Davis


History makers and pioneers lost in 2005 include:

Shirley Chisholm, 1st black woman elected to congress in NY.
John H. Johnson, publisher of Ebony and Jet magazine

And Rosa Parks died in Detroit.

She was mourned from Montgomery to Michigan. And all points in between.

The year 2005 lost Pope John Paul II, Ruth Warrick, Johnny Carson, Bob Denver, Don Adams, Frank Perdue, August Wilson and Anne Bancroft among others.

And I lost my only pet as an adult

My cat Sterling.
(2000-2005)

It was fun having a cat around the house but Sterling wanted to be outside more than inside. And Sterling ruled the back yard for 4 years.

May everyone who passed away in 2005 rest in peace.

Thanks to every one of you for your contributions to the world.

The worst of 2005

Now that we have reached the end of 2005, there will be some "Worst of" lists for the year. And I thought that I would do the same. And the list may change before January 1, 2006. So if you read this before then, please check back to see if I have edited or added anything to the list.

For me my personal worst of 2005:

The Spectacle that was the funeral services for the great Rosa Parks.

Mrs. Rosa Parks died in Detroit. Her body was flown like a trophy around the country, to Montgomery, Washington DC and back to Detroit to lie in state in each city. Thousands had the chance to walk past her coffin and pay their respects. And she definitely deserved some respect. I feel anyone from the civil rights movement deserves honor. But what happened to Mrs. Parks was a marathon of grandstanding that was insulting.

My main complaint is the day long funeral service held in Detroit. This was the grand finale after the world tour. They shipped Mrs. Parks around to put her on display for the people and at the grand celebration of her life. It seemed that anyone who had a pulse and held political office got their chance to "be seen" at the funeral of Mrs. Rosa Parks.

Guest speakers (or should I say performers) included The Mayor, The Governor, The city council member, the state Senator, The Mayor's mama, and The United States Senator. No, not the senator from Michigan where Rosa Parks lived. Not the senator from Alabama where Rosa Parks is originally from. But the senator from New York...Hillary Rodham Clinton! And there were people from one association to another, or a relative of someone from one association to another. Or a relative of a relative of whoever. There were probably more speakers in line for the microphone at the funeral than there were people who walked past Rosa Park's casket while she was lying in state.

A common thread among the speakers: They never met Rosa Parks! They did not know Rosa Parks. They only heard about her. Well guess what, I did not personally know Rosa Parks either. I only have heard about her. And I heard a little more from family who happen to be from Montgomery and lived there during the civil rights movement. If only I held political office, I too could have spoken at the funeral of Rosa Parks. I wouldn't have much to say just like those who did speak, but I could repeat everything we already knew with a personal twist. Just like those who spoke at the funeral.

One thing I learned from the funeral marathon of Rosa Parks is that it must be a rule when you get to the microphone at the funeral of someone important in society that you have to acknowledge EVERY person involved in the church, the family, and significant politicians in attendance by saying each of their names before you get to the gist of your meaningless speech. You also have to give a lengthy introduction of the next speaker. And not to be outdone by any guest speaker is every member of the clergy who spoke. When a Black member of the clergy speaks, expect to sit a while. The Reverend train included Jessie Jackson and Al Sharpton as well as clergy from Mrs. Parks own church. And one minister had the nerve to remind the guest speakers that "Time is of the essence". He says this in the FOURTH hour of the service....ONE hour after the time that the service was expected to end and THREE hours before it was actually over.

My question after spending a day watching this funeral marathon on TV was where the hell were all of these people in Mrs. Parks later years? Like when she faced eviction as her rent was behind. Why are all of these millionaire preachers and politicians getting "photo ops" at the funeral of a woman who was never as wealthy but did more with one event than these bigshots could do in a lifetime?

There was nothing wrong with having a memorial service for Rosa Parks. But there was everything wrong with the FUNERAL they had for Rosa Parks. I think they used her and I am ashamed of my country for allowing it. But sadly it is all forgotten now. About as fast as those politicians forgot about Mrs. Parks....as they walked away from that podium.


The rest of The WORST of 2005 (In no specific order)

The Miami Dolphins: It has been over 30 years since my hometown football team has won a Super Bowl. Why, because we get these "star" players who belong in a toilet bowl. For years we had the overrated and highly ego(ed) Dan Marino. And this year we had to deal with an idiot (who is too sickening to even mention his name!) who quit the NFL to go "find himself" or to get high or something. (He had to be "on something") And then the team accepts him back later in the season and we still have nothing to show for it. And as a lifelong "Dolfan" I remain dedicated but I am fed up at the same time. We need a winning team in South Florida with real players who are serious about getting the job done.

Monday Night Football: The 2005 season is the final season of the traditional "Monday Night Football" telecasts on ABC. Starting in 2006, "MNF" will be seen on ESPN only if you have cable or satellite TV. After 35 years on ABC and "free" TV, it just won't be the same.

Hurricanes: Proving in 2005 that they are nothing to play with. Hopefully people will take the Hurricane season of 2005 into consideration and prepare themselves for ANY possible emergency.

Hurricane Aftermath: There's a lot of complaining about government response and services provided after a hurricane disaster. Even months after the tragic storms of 2005 people are still complaining. But many people are also not doing much to help themselves. These are the same people who were not prepared for the storm or any other emergency. You can't expect others to give you everything. YOU have to be able to take care of yourself and your family. It is called self-responsibility! And what I have seen in 2005 is that so many people neglect their responsibility and expect someone else to be responsible for their problems. Sorry, but I have my own problems to deal with. I can't always afford to deal with your problems too.

And some did help themselves: Sadly, some did "help themselves" after the hurricanes of 2005. Among the images of the storms aftermath we saw people looting stores in the damaged areas. Many tried to legimize looting as a way for survival in after the storm. People needing to feed their families and such. I say BS!

If you were prepared for an emergency and lived on a budget you would not need to STEAL food for your family. If you were prepared for an emergency and lived on a budget, you may have been able to leave the area when the warnings were issued when you knew that you were facing danger.

The truth is most looters see an emergency as the perfect opportunity to take whatever they want. To create lawlessness when law enforcement officials are weakened and overwhelmed in an emergency. They did this with Hurricane Katrina in 2005, Hurricane Andrew in 1992, the urban riots of Los Angeles and Miami and the New York City electrical blackout of 1977 just to name a few examples. These are thugs and other low life types taking an opportunity to kick their fellow man when the community is down and un-prepared. And they shamefully believe that there was nothing wrong with this. They even believe that they were "owed" the very things that they stole. To me, when I see looting, I see madness and sadness as deep as the deaths that occurred within the same emergency. Not only have people lost lives, but people lost their minds as well.
My career move: I only include this as the worst of 2005 because of the financial mess that has resulted from my quitting my job in 2005. Overall, I am still glad I left.
My sorry ass brother: I'll be nice and not say his name, but family members will know exactly who I am talking about. This brother really showed us just how trifling he really is YET he is too stupid to realize it.


The religious @#$%!
: 2005 has proved that the religious community is more hyprocritical than ever. If their really is a god, then please teach these co-called followers to accept ALL of their neighbors.

Politicians: These idiots who run the United States of America would make any worst of list. You name them, Republicans AND Democrats alike. If you have an open mind and think clearly then you would see that neither political party is working in the best interest of anyone.
They are all liars who will say anything to get your vote. And like good little slaves, you follow the "Massa's" orders by only voting for these two political parties.

People, please get off of the Democratic AND Republican political party plantation!


Reality TV: I think this whole genre' has become a cesspool of television confusion. It started with a NON MUSIC show on MUSIC TELEVISION, aka "MTV" way back in the early 1990's. And now includes a so-called talent show and countless shows where you eat anything disgusting, go camping, get locked inside a glass house for a day, wife swapping, or just acting like an ass in front of the cameras. And you gullible couch potatoes are hooked on this mess.

There is not a damn thing "real" about "The Real World", it is nothing but a youthful fashion show. Put a bunch of pretty kids into a circus mansion, let them get naked but you'll blur the screen so that we don't really see them naked BUT you don't blur the screen when one of those brats vomits? You can't show their bare ass but you let us see the disgusting results of their having drank too much booze the night before? And why bleep out the "bad" words? Why waste the time in the editing room. We already know what they are saying.

American Idol: Which is more disgusting? The drunk girl vomiting on "The Real World" or the whole American Idol craze? I think it is a cookie toss up.

Add to the stomach churning ANY washed up or wanabe celebrity who has a TV camera "documenting" their bullshit lives
. Paris and Nicole, Bobby and Whitney, Bobby and Whitney (I had to say that twice!), Nick and Jessica (will they merge their show with Divorce Court?), The Osborne circus, Bonaduce, Brady, and Flava Flav!

Actually, that the girl vomiting on camera for The Real World may be more interesting than watching Flava Flav. One can result in the other. Or vise versa.




The best of 2005

Now that we have reached the end of 2005, there will be many "Best of" lists for the year. And I thought that I would do the same. And the list may change before January 1, 2006. So if you read this before then, please check back to see if I have edited or added anything to the list.

The BEST of 2005 (in no specific order)

Actually, I will declare this the best move of 2005, quitting my job! Leaving the madness and disorganization behind. It became a decision between life and work. Work had been physically and mentally draining for me. I was very close to a breakdown and I realized that it was not worth it. I had to get the hell out of what had become an insane workplace before I ended up in an insane asylum. I wanted to actually have time (and sanity) for having a "life" and being able to do things socially. This would not be possible if I had continued with the job that I had. Ironically, as I am editing this, that former employer has announced its closing in early 2006. I guess the insanity has finally caught up with them.

Quitting my job could also be the worst move of 2005 as it did cause a destructive meltdown of my finances. But at least I am happier.



The Return of Piggly Wiggly! Hey, I live in the South! And having a Piggly Wiggly grocery store in your Southern hometown is a birth right. OK not really, but it is just fun saying "Piggly Wiggly".

There are many owners of stores called Piggly Wiggly. The owners of the "local" Piggly Wiggly chain where I live changed the name of their stores in the mid 1990's. And many older Piggly Wiggly stores were closed. Now under new ownership, the crappy stores we knew as "FoodMax" were all changed back to the old Piggly Wiggly name. And the stores actually improved some.

But again, I just like saying Piggly Wiggly.

Friends: I know I have friends and I am lucky. They know who they are and I appreciate all of them. And just before Christmas I made a connection online with an old friend that I had lost contact with at least 15 years ago. And it was great to make that contact and to know that he is doing fine. I hope we will keep in touch.

My family reunion: I was definitely stressed out because of my career change and resulting financial problems. But the family reunion was a great break for me. We traveled to the family home in Alabama and later to a concert at the Alabama Music hall of Fame featuring my father Eddie Floyd. It turned out to be a great weekend getaway.

The inspiration of youth: A group of high school students in Gainesville Georgia started a Gay-Straight Alliance at their High School and faced stiff opposition from their school and their community. But these teens, their family and friends fought against that opposition bringing the discussion of gay issues in school and the small town south to the forefront. One of the teens, Kerry Pacer was declared "Person of The Year" by The Advocate magazine. And her mother is president of the new PFLAG chapter in the area.

The teens from White County GA stood up for themselves. And there are many who are inspired by their courage.

My mother's rest: Although I miss my mother. I am much happier that I don't have to see her suffering again. She is at rest now.

My own personal peace: I have always had this personal turmoil within over anything. But now I really don't care. I accept things as they come and I deal with it. Every year I develop a new level of peace with many issues. And I feel stronger about them.

"Weeds": My brand new favorite TV show! (On Showtime) debued in the summer of 2005 It may only be 30 minutes long, but it is a well written and funny program for those of us with unique senses of humor. I guess you have to have "grown up" in a variety of areas to really understand why I love this show.

The end of "Six Feet Under" & "Queer As Folk": Two TV shows I watched regularly ended their runs in 2005. I loved both of these shows for different reasons. And both shows left as strongly as they came. They stayed on exactly as long as needed to avoid becoming stale. For many of the actors, doing these shows was a bold and courageous move that could haunt them in their career. But they played their roles well. And I wish all of the actors on both shows much success in their future roles. And same for the producers and writers of these programs. Thanks for taking those bold steps! I will be enjoying DVD collections of these TV programs for years to come.

Earth, Wind & Fire: I saw this legendary music group in concert this year. It was just what I needed-to see one of my favorite groups in concert for the first time. And I am a long time fan! I was buying Earth, Wind and Fire record albums 30 years ago with money I earned delivering newspapers and running errands for elderly neighbors but never saw them live. I do own their live albums so I knew they would jam. But this was the greatest concert I have attended! Mostly original and they still got it! And they have a great album this year too!

Sunday, December 25, 2005

It was my peace on earth

Twas this night after Christmas and all through this house, not a creature stirred today. I never left the house. No phone calls, no visits, no noise, no food and no traffic trying to get to or from that holiday feast. Just plenty of sleep and hours of watching movies while sitting next to a lit fireplace. The fireplace helps me relax and it made sense to have the fireplace lit today. It was my own personal "yule log". So I wasn't completely "Bah Humbug" after all.

This was a very comfortable and relaxing day. It was my peace on earth and I am satisfied with the Christmas of 2005. I wanted little to do with the holiday and I achieved just that. I did plan on doing some yard work but I learned that most of my world will still be shut down tomorrow (Monday) since Christmas Day 2005 fell on a Sunday. So since I won't be able to conduct most business tomorrow, it will have to be work around the house. Weather permitting of course.

When I wake up in the morning I won't have to listen to any more "holiday" music until October when they begin that three month Christmas fest all over again. YEA!!!

Friday, December 23, 2005

They make us all look bad

Ok, this is where I will rant about something that I feel needs to be said. If you see me or a photo of me after reading my rant you may think that I am a hyprocate. I tell you that is not the case!

Truth is I am just being honest. And I have learned from the actions of others. When I see something that just isn't right then I have to acknowledge it for what it is. It is my policy of brutal honesty or painful truth, for the truth shall set you free. So said the preacher.

Todays rant is long overdue! I'm talking about FAT people. Yes I am fat, but I do care. I have changed habits as I have grown older and I realize the need to make that change and to become more physically fit. And I have learned by the actions of other fat people who do stupid things and in my opinion make all of fat society look bad.

Yes, I deliver pizzas as a part time job. NO I don't eat a pizza every day. But I deliver pizzas to people who really should be ashamed of themselves. FAT people! People who frequently call and order food delivery as if they have a family to feed. A large pizza with everything on it, plus chicken wings, bread sticks and dessert. Enough food to feed several people but when you deliver this order to a house you stand and wait for several minutes while a heavy set woman opens the door, out of breath from lifting her fat ass off the couch and while paying for her order she complains that her 2 liter DIET COKE is not cold.

Yes I said DIET coke!

Why is it that I see so many fat people ordering high calorie meals and over indulging on them and they have the nerve to wash it down with a DIET soda? What's the point? Is that diet soda suppose to reduce the fat content of the food you just ate? So instead of gaining 5 pounds you drink the diet coke and only gain 4 1/2 pounds. Is this the new FAT math?

I have been delivering pizza for a long time. Too long! And I have come to know the type of customer. The obese person who calls with a list of items and specific cooking instructions. "Make sure you don't forget my dipping sauce!" or "make that double pepperoni". And you go to the house thinking there is a family waiting for dinner or the guys are about to watch the game on TV. And what you find is someone who is home alone and should definitely be ordering a salad instead of a deep dish pizza. I see it all the time and it is sad. And knowing how common this is and how bad this looks has taught me to NEVER be caught doing the same behavior.

Another FAT people rant: Fat people in small cars!

There comes a time when saving gas is NOT really important. If you are driving and your butt spills over into the passenger seat, you need a bigger car! I know a 400 pound woman who drives a KIA! The steering wheel in this car is truly her "bosom buddy". If those nipples got hard, she would blow the horn!

I know that was crass but i'm sorry. Her ass is too big for a Kia! With todays gas prices I understand the need to get better gas mileage. But get a bigger car! Something that does not lean to the side when you sit down. I know many fat people with minivans. They can drive them comfortably and have plenty of room for groceries. (Don't try to fool me into thinking that ALL fat people in minivans actually drive kids to soccer practice!)

Again, I am fat! I admit it and fully accept it. And I don't drive a Kia, Colbalt, Cavalier, Escort, Focus, Neon or any other cheap little car. I drive vehicles that don't involve having the steering wheel pressed against my gut. FAT PEOPLE, PLEASE GET OUT OF THOSE TINY CARS!!

And if I have not totally offended someone yet.........


I am so glad it is approaching winter time. It may be too cold for me, but at least I won't have to witness shirtless lard asses mowing their lawn. And I won't have to see fat heffers who think they have an ass like Beyonce's and they could wear the tightest of clothes and the shortest of shorts. Those "Daisy Dukes" become more like "Big Mama Daisy Mae's" and despite whatever these women are trying to believe, it aint pretty!

And one more thing!

It is that time when FAT people think that they are going to get fit in the new year. You count the days until January 1st and you let yourself go until then. It's that "last one before the diet" phase. You eat everything in sight. All of the holiday food favorites and you make that last run to all of your favorite restaurants. Then after the new year fat people begin searching for the GYM or Fitness club. All of which are more than eager to take your FAT money for a membership.

Read this very carefully! The real fit and thin members of the fitness clubs do not want your fat ass in their way. Your diet and weight loss plan will not last long into the new year. So why waste your time and theirs? Why waste the money? Leave the fitness clubs alone. The gym bunnies who are serious about being fit will appreciate it if you stayed away.

I know some fat people who will hate me for this blog. Oh well, they'll eat something and get over it.

Excuse me while I go check on the Ham in the oven.

Hoe Hoe Hoe

This is about as much Christmas as you are going to get out of me!

I do wish those who celebrate well. No need to call! My phone will be OFF for the holiday and I'll do something creative like getting off of my fat ass and doing some overdue yard work.

For me, it will be Hoe Hoe Hoe while the rest of you eat too much and open your materialistic gifts of this season. Have your fun, to each his own.

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

In Memory of Shealy

Today would have been the 90th birthday of Mr. John S. Pettis, the man who was married to my late grandmother for 62 years until his passing in 1998.

He was not my biological grandfather but he was the ONLY grandfather that I knew. He treated us with the same kindless (and meanness when necessary) as anyone would do for their family. My grandparents together did so much for so many. And I pay my respects to the man who everyone called "Shealy". My Grandfather Mr John Shealy Pettis 12/21/1915-10/3/1998

Old Friends

Thanks to the internet, I have made a connection with an old friend from school.

Many years ago, I signed up on CLASSMATES.com and I put all of my schools just out of curiousity about old classmates. I had few friends in school. I many schools I had NO friends and no real reason to look up former classmates. There are many familiar names that I could not put a face to. But I left my profile on Classmates.com and mostly forgot about it.

But today I got an e-mail from one of those former Classmates. And this was a friend both in and out of school. We even kept in touch after I turned 18 and moved to another state but lost contact by the time I was 21.

That happens, people lose contact and move on with their lives. Now, some 18 years later I hear from that friend and learn that he is doing well and now lives across the country.

Hearing from that old friend has truly made my day!

Best wishes to that old friend! And thanks again to the classmates.com member who made this contact possible!

Sunday, December 18, 2005

Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays or whatever

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays or Bah Humbug!
What shall it be?
Folks, I have to tell you that this is not really my favorate time of year. And in 2005 I have even more reasons why.

Currently, there is a debate over whether or not people are taking "Christ" out of Christmas. The main focus of this debate is when people say "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas". Christians get upset when people say "Happy Holidays. And non-christians feel left out when the focus is exclusively toward Christmas.

I personally think there is nothing wrong with saying "Happy Holidays" to a total stranger whose religious faith is unknown to me. It is also none of my business in regarding anyones faith or religious beliefs. I think it is rude to assume that someone is celebrating Christmas, Hannukah or whatever they choose in the month of December. To me, "Happy Holidays" isnt exactly a bad thing to say as it covers everything. If I offend someone whether or not I say "Merry Christmas", then maybe it is safer to not say nothing at all. Or can I say Bah Humbug? Thats where I am leaning.

I do have a problem with businesses suddenly calling Christmas Trees "holiday trees" when they have them for sale. For years, people have profited from selling "Christmas Trees", so why change the name just to please a few who may not celebrate Christmas. I also have a problem with so-called "holiday sales" when businesses know damn well that they are selling for the CHRISTMAS holiday. Because the Christmas holiday is the most commercialized holiday of the year. Even becoming more commercialized every year with the sales and the mad rush to the malls.

One HOLIDAY gripe that I have personally is when radio stations start playing "Christmas" music before Thanksgiving. This has become a popular trend around the United States. Radio stations around the country beging their "holiday programing" sometimes well over a month before Christmas Day. For someone like me who does not care for most "holiday music" this type of programing becomes tiresome before Thanksgiving. I don't want to hear another damn Christmas song at this point and I am typing this on December 5th!

There is one reason why radio stations do this, for ratings and commercial appeal. This is the perfect chance for retailers to advertise and many of the retailers are playing these holiday Christmas music stations on radios on their sales floor. All to get people into the shopping spirit. Only problem now is that it starts earlier and earlier every year. Some radio stations started right after Halloween. Thanksgiving has become nothing more than a day off to eat too much food and plan ones stragegy for shopping the next morning.

This is just too much BS, so I think I'll sit this holiday out. (Excuse me, Christmas)

Oh hell, I'll go ahead and say it......BAH HUMBUG!!

Whew!

Bartender, I'll take that egg nog STRONG please.

I'm still here, but a little lazy.

I have had lots to say but I have been too lazy to say it. I dont want anyone to think that I have lost intrest in making this blog interesting. But I have to honestly tell everyone that I have been in a bit of a fog over the past few weeks.

A few of the things that I could have posted blogs about were the passing of Richard Pryor or my recently going to see Earth, Wind and Fire in concert.

I should have told you about my nice Thanksgiving Day and express my thanks for the friends who invited me over for dinner.

Or I could have talked about this debate over whether someone should say "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays" and I sware I am so sick of this debate. I just wish people would get over it.

I could talk about the American Family Association of Mississippi but I would much rather stay in a good mood today. Same for Dr. James Dobson and his "focus on the family" bullshit association.

Oops, I forgot I was supposed to be in a good mood today, so no cursing.

This is one of those rainy Sundays where I am perfectly happy staying inside and secluded from the craziness of the outside world. Put on some Johnnie Taylor and mix in some John Coltrane and Miles Davis and follow that with some Phyllis Hyman. My old school blues, Jazz and smooth R&B music to block out the holiday (excuse me, Christmas) season and just relax.

My ass is tired and this season is really dragging.