Monday, February 28, 2011

No harm or insult intended. Only expressing opinion.

I haven't blogged as much as I would like. I really would like to do it as often as possible and grow this into a regular and enjoyable read for anyone willing. I thank each and every one of you who took the time to read any of my blog posts over the years in this format and in its previous format.

A few times my blog posts have turned people away on a personal level. Perhaps its from something I said and later posted links to my personal Facebook page. I would notice a decrease in the number of facebook friends. And this happened recently after posting my rant comparing politics to cancer. One of the people I noticed to have unfriended me on Facebook was a very interesting person who has mutual friendships with people I have known personally for many years although we have only met in person once. We never communicated much but I feel the timing between his removing me from his friends list and my posting of the blog may be over the extreme nature of my blog expression.

If that person or a close friend of his should happen to read this I must express that what I post on my blog is never intended to directly insult anyone. If it is then I clearly identify the target of my scorn. It is never intended for personal attack of any friend or acquaintence or relations of those people. I am expressing an opinion and we aren't likely to agree on everything but I do appreciate conversation. If I should say something you consider to be out of line please feel free to share that with me. Lets give each other the chance to make conversation out of it and come to an understanding.

I used to joke about some people going to prison and the possibility of a person being raped in prison. One such example was when the singer George Michael was sent to prison for a crime he committed and I said something about his being gay and may enjoy having a boyfriend that was also his cellmate. When I jokingly posted comments regarding that one person responded that she felt that rape jokes were never funny, ever. This happened more than once where I made a rather immature joke and the same person expressed her dislike in the joke. Then upon further observation of her postings I realized that the subject of assault and abuse appeared to be personal.

Out of respect for privacy I didn't dare ask so I assume that my postings triggered a reaction based on circumstances within that person's life or from that person's field of work. Neither of which I knew for sure nor was any of my business. But it got me thinking about how with some subjects it can really hit an individual hard on a personal level that I could never understand for not having any experience of my own on the matter. So with that along with the seriousness of that topic I no longer intentionally make jokes about prison inmates and sexual assault. I think twice about the time and place out of respect to those I know who may read it. And while thinking twice the result often is that the expression just isn't worth it.

My recent post where I suggested that politics is akin to having cancer could have triggered a negative reaction for people who have dealt with cancer in their family or personally. I believe this may be the case with the recent post and the person who unfriended me. But with no communication between me and that person this will never be confirmed. But in any case, I never meant to insult anyone. You just never know how simple topics and expressions could touch people.

For me, the subject of demensia hits close to home. My mother had it during her many years of illness. Only thing is for me dealing with it was very distant because of my living in another state and my sister was the one at home taking care of our mother. Still I don't consider demensia to be a laughing matter. Perhaps I should consider that some may have had to watch a loved one suffer so much with cancer as it is so terribly common and posting an angry blog as I did was poor judgement.

I can't take back what I posted. I stand by my opinion and you can see that if you read the details within. The regret from me is that it may have caused some to be offended for personal reasons unrelated to the subject matter. And to those especially the one who unfriended me on Facebook around the same time I posted my blog, I sincerely apologize for any offense I may have caused.

As I continue to blog I hope to find more creative ways to get my point across. I also may step on toes because I refuse to sugarcoat anything. And I hope the readers will look carefully within and between the lines.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Tea******* AND their Haters!

I get so irritated when some words and name calling persists and one of the biggest public users of one word I totally despise did so again today with this post on his popular blog. What saddens me is that the blogger is a great source of news and information for the LGBT community but feels the necessity to act like a giggling brat with the frequent use of a word targeting a group of political wackos with a sexual innuendo.

This habit from the left started as a joke when the Tea Party mistakenly identified themselves using a word they didn't understand had a sexual innuendo attached. When the Tea Party discovered their mistake they stopped using the word. Those opposed to the Tea Party and the Right in general seized upon that word and gleefully use it to joke about in reference to the political groups they disagree with. It was funny for about 5 minutes. Now it is a nuisance that needs to go away.

Name calling and jokes are among the many reasons why this country will NOT progress in any way any time soon. Part of that political CULTISM that has infected the United States like a vicious disease. A cancer that has plagued our government with power hungry parasites on two sides of a political opinion pandering to a misinformed voter base all too eager to suck in their rhetoric like a hungry dog at feeding time.

I HATE the use of the word "Teabagger" and it makes it difficult for me to read JOE MY GOD's blog and others within the LGBT community. These are supposed to be my brothers and sisters in the struggle but when it comes to political opinion including using immature phrases to disparage people you don't agree with, I guess I am the black sheep of the LGBT family.

Read my previous post "People Who Aren't Smart Enough To Vote" as a reminder of how we got into this situation and why I feel things wont change anytime soon especially with the current habits of other bloggers and their followers.

Sunday, February 20, 2011

Madison mad as hell and not taking it anymore: Is there a lesson here?

February 2011, Madison Wisconsin. Thousands have been protesting at the state capital over proposed changes that they disagee with. I am not going to discuss the issues at hand as they involve labor unions and with my mixed feelings about unions and admitted lack of clear knowledge of the situation just doesn't make it appropiate for me to talk further about that. But there are lessons about the protesting itself that we could all consider.

So many complain about the things that we feel are wrong in our lives but today's generations often fail to sacrifice and put action into expressing their feelings. Thousands of people in Madison Wisconsin disagree with the Governor and are doing more than most of us would do in today's society. They didn't just join a social networking group online and post their comments, they stepped away from their computers and carried their butts to the source of their disagreement. They brought it to their doorstep and demanded attention, even shut things down as many government officials there have stayed away. People are EXPRESSING their opinion in direct action, but thankfully in Madison we haven't heard of violent action. The streets of Wisconsin's state capital aren't burning, only the passions of people standing up for what they believe in.

As this is happening in the USA and more violent protest actions occurred in Egypt I hear that there is another proposal for a LGBT "March on Washington". I remember there were marches in the 1980's, 1993, 2000 and while the organizers of the 2009 gay march for equality don't consider it the same, it was a march on Washington just like the others. So the gay community likes to do this "march on Washington" thing every decade or so. And I think it is time for the (LGBT) Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender community to give up the marches on Washington DC and take the marching idea to the states, counties, cities and towns. It's time to protest from the ground up.

What the LGBT community needs to do is consider NEW ideas for marching and protesting our government. These marches need to occur at a time when the government officials are AT the capital or in their chambers and offices, not on weekends as the LGBT marches have always been. These should not be social events, they should be protest events. Protest events happen during BUSINESS hours.

The way all of the gay marches on Washington have appeared to be (for me) were media events, speeches to the choir, celebrity appearances,cocktail parties and "meetups" at the local clubs and bars. But the people needing to hear the message from the community are not in the building on Saturday and Sunday. IN Wisconsin the protests have been all week DURING the business hours and have disrupted "business" in the state capital.

I am being repetitive but stressing my point. I think EVERY STATE should experience what Wisconsin is currently experiencing today. People need to converge upon their state capitals and city halls when the government officials are in the building so they can hear and see you face to face. And we should not give up until they HEAR your voice and develop a suitable resolution. And of course people should EDUCATE themselves on the issues, their political representatives and candidates to replace those who aren't giving you what you want. Then the real protest action comes in the voting booth. But there we have another problem. Todays society hasn't handled that voting thing responsibly in decades either.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

America, we have TERMINAL Cancer!

One of the nastiest CANCERS in mankind is an untold one. Political cults known as Democrats and Republicans are like cancer cells eating away our soul and freedom day after day, year after year. Name the topic and it is not immune to the disease.

Want a cure for it? Abandon the risky behavior that causes it. Eradicate those political cults from office. Start with the Georgia capital which is full of bigots and infested by "christian" parasites who thrive in keeping the Peach State far behind in society.

Then work that cancer cure into Washington DC, from top to bottom we need to scrub the place clean of the generations of political sludge that is spackled along the walls and floors of our Nation's capital. A power wash is needed to remove our world of the poison. We need to sterilize this earth from the dominant germs of political partisanship.

Until this happens, The United States of America will never be "united" and its subjects will never truly be free.

Sunday, February 06, 2011

Ronnie 100: What my grandmother taught me.

Sunday February 6, 1911 was the day 100 years ago that Ronald Reagan was born. He grew up to become an actor in Hollywood, Sacramento and Washington DC. My Grandmother Anna Rea Burton Pettis was born just over 10 years later in South Carolina. She grew up to become a mother of one but graces many others with motherly love and wisdom.

My grandmother has something in common with Ronald Reagan. They died on the same day in 2004. Both left a lasting legacy that had great impact on anyone they knew or served.

My grandmother's legacy included valuable words of wisdom and advice that make sense. One item she always told me was that if you didn't have anything good to say about someone that it was best to say nothing at all.

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See grandma, I hear you and follow your advice. And it feels good.

Monday, December 27, 2010

Rest in Peace Lady T

Mary Christine Brockhert, lovingly known to her fans as TEENA MARIE died on December 26, 2010 at the age of 54.

I would like to write my own personal tribute but honestly, this sudden death has hit me pretty hard. I needed to resume regular posting of my blog especially on music issues and I hate that this sad loss may be the event that resumes the regular posts. But I will say something later as my work schedule permits. Also when I can put clear thoughts together in respect to this great entertainer.

In the meantime I shall share with you three favorite songs by Teena Marie. These by no means are the only favorites. Just some you likely WON'T find mentioned in other tributes.

"Shadow Boxing" from the 1983 album "Robbery"



"Now That I Have You" from the 1980 album "Lady T"
Written and produced by Richard Rudolph, the widower of Minnie Riperton



"Aladdin's Lamp" also from the 1980 album "Lady T"




More thoughts about Teena Marie later. Rest in Peace "Lady T"

Her fans are hurting today.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Sean's Disney Hollywood Studios Christmas Special

Season's Greetings to one and all.
As part of your holiday entertainment through movies and Christmas specials I thought I would encourage you to watch these wonderfully produced videos from a friend.

It's "Sean's Disney Hollywood Studios Christmas Special" IN THREE PARTS.
(After watching, subscribe to Sean's channel on YouTube for more great videos)

PART ONE


PART TWO


PART THREE

Thursday, December 23, 2010

VENTING: Ungreatful "Activist" wannabees, Opportunists and false friendships

*This was originally posted as a FACEBOOK note but I decided to make it a little more "public". Let it be documented and the chips fall where they may. Things are not what they appear to be and from now on I will call out things when they are WRONG. The personal rant you'll read below is such an event.

Also with this post I am removing a link to a website related to the person mentioned in this blog post. The reason for this is there hasn't been a clear understanding of the "organization's" mission and opportunities for proper networking and seeking support have failed miserably. And while I still support the person (in my heart and wishes) I cannot appear to endorse it with the current standing. Perhaps in the future I will mention the organization when things are treated seriously.

December 22, 2010

Derrick Martin has deleted most of the "friends" on Facebook and with other

recent occasions I felt the need to vent a little but post it as an open letter posted here as a Facebook note

I don't need or want a response. I'm just saying what I feel and thats it. Many

of you already know my opinions and experience over the past 9 months.



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I guess Derrick Martin thining out his Facebook friends list included many of the (Central

Georgia) locals and organizations that stuck their necks out in in support of him from the beginning and before

the fame and attention became too much to handle. Lots of people including ME took great risks in their

personal, professional and volunteer lives when the stories came out in our own

backyard and we came forward in support.



Many of us supported and wanted to help. Some of us got snubbed at public events

like the HRC Atlanta dinner,Savannah Pride and Atlanta Pride. And supporters were shut out when

offered to help. Some of us truly cared but the Rural Georgia region was painted

as unworthy and uncaring in many ways. Often those negative painted images and insults came

from people OUTSIDE the state of Georgia. A few months ago there was a podcast titled "The Night The Lights Went Out IN Georgia: Where was the Community support" that

suggested that nobody locally cared about Derrick Martin but it got deleted within minutes of sending an e-mail to the podcast producers disputing some of the details and the blatent omissions about the community support from the September 2010 podcast.



The LGBT community in Georgia, yes GEORGIA is growing stronger despite the

images painted by non rural Georgia residents, national LGBT organizations and others who abandoned the area and despite the disrespect given to anyone around her who ever tried to make a difference.

For some of that growth in strength a former High School Student from nearby Cochran Georgia can be

thanked. Because the attention he created did encourage others who were truly in need of

support to seek it. Many true friendships were made that weren't filled with other

motives. Like I said, the GEORGIA LGBT community grew a little stronger.



Do I seem bitter? Don't care! But I'll tell you that I am not bitter as much as I admit to being annoyed. But I take pride in knowing that I tried. That was the best I could have done. In doing so I learned some

valuable lessons. OH did I learn some valuable lessons.



I learned who my "real" friends are and that it was a very

short list and certainly not those who I had once trusted.



I learned that opposition and harassment based on "guilt" by association, support or action

can be fierce and sadly come from both within as well as outside the LGBT

community.



I learned that there are more cowards and opportunists than there ever will be heroes.



I learned that the general public was only admiring their own dreams and images and didn't give a damn about the real people.



I learned that it isn't easy for me to prove that I DID care about the real people as the real

people may have enjoyed the attention and admiration more than appreciated the

help.



I was also reminded that money can bring out evil and could possibly be the key to someone's heart. The evil came from the accusations. The rest is best left unsaid.



There were some who in theiropposition and harrassment of me who said people were only doing whatever for attention. I REFUSE TO ALLOW ANY OF THOSE ASSHOLES AN "I TOLD YOU SO" for if no action of support was taken by anyone then some of the same people would have complained that nobody did anything. And even still....99% of those who complain NEVER get off of their precious asses to lift a finger to help or offer a solution. At least some of us are honest and dedicated enough to get up and at least try to do something.



My mama used to say that my mouth might get me into trouble. Well, I also learned in 2010 that the things I say INCLUDING THIS MESSAGE might step on some toes, hurt feelings or bruise egos but if I feel I am still being honest in my

feelings then I am perfectly fine with that. In other words, I don't give a damn! I am reminded that my opinion and my being honest is the best policy I know and that is what I am using. This is how I choose to live, honestly and without shame or regret.





I could go on but I just felt the need to vent.



Perhaps someone can forward my thoughts to the Georgia Southern College student. This note on Facebook is open to anyone who wishes to read. But when you do forward this, make sure to include that I STILL wish all the best and remind not only that person but EVERYONE that in order to work for Equality we all need to work TOGETHER. In order to support one, we need to support each other.



There has to be some substance to the promise of making a difference and creating change.



MY PERSONAL PLEDGE TO EVERYONE is that I will always be available to help wherever I can. I do care (beyond myself) and

will continue to support and work toward OUR brighter future.

Monday, November 01, 2010

People who aren't smart enough to vote!

Happy Halloween! I am back to blogging after a monthlong hiatus. And some of you might think after reading this that I should stay on hiatus. But I am here anyway!

So November 2nd is Halloween. Some of you might think that Halloween was October 31st, but no. That's just some day where people dress up in costumes, scare people and eat a lot of candy. The REAL halloween is on the following Tuesday in America when people go to the polls to vote for witches, gobblins and devils for political office.

I am of the opinion that most of us (including myself) really aren't smart enough to vote. If we were then we wouldn't have all of the troubles in this world. Think about it carefully. You or someone you know just might be too stupid to vote. And stupid people should STAY HOME ON TUESDAY NOVEMBER 2ND to avoid doing further damage to our country. Last weekend there was a "Restoring Sanity" rally in Washington DC hosted by a TV personality from a comedy channel! This was to counter previous rallies hosted by a popular TV and Radio host in "conservative" circles. And to be "fair and balanced" in my warped sort of way, I refrain from mentioning either host's names for this blog. I'm not attacking or hating on either person or their followers specfically. I am going to be an equal opportunity hater today.

So I think that in my own interest in "restoring sanity", today I am going to list MY OPINION of which STUPID PEOPLE should avoid going to the polls and voting for any of the halloween characters running for political office. I will be adding to the list throughout the day on November 1st and 2nd, so come back to the blog later and see if I added anything (depends on my work schedule and the ability to go online) And feel free to add your comments below and prove how stupid (or smart) you are.

Partial list of people who should stay home and avoid voting because I don't believe you are smart enough to vote:

1- Anyone who uses the phrase "Tea Bagger". Every time you call people you disagee with that name (opposite party) you only lower yourself to their level of crazy. You think you are smarter than they are but you really look and sound like an immature brat. You'll probably vote with your emotions rather than with common sense and look where that got us. Same goes to those who somehow find a thrill in butchering the name of the political party or TV news outlet you disagree with. And this equally qualifies as STUPID..."Faux News", "See-BS", "DummoCRAT" (although I think many Democrats are dumb, they are not alone) "Repugs", "Republicunts" (that's just mean and nasty and wrong)
If YOU are guilty of using any of the above phrases then YOU aren't capable of an intelligent conversation on politics.

2-Anyone who is STILL questioning the birth of the current president of the United States! Oh MY God you people are stupid and twisted. You have no capacity to think clearly. You should all go roast a hog on Tuesday. You might be very very dumb but some of you can make a mean BBQ.

3- If your only concern is who can marry who then you are missing a few screws...the ones that held the pieces of your brain into place that forgets all of the infedelity in your own family or household and you are incapable of answering the simple question "How would David and Michael down the street getting married REALLY have an effect on my own marriage". You too should stay home and avoid voting. If your mindset is so narrow god only knows what else you can screw up.

4. And before any liberals and gay activists celebrate any agreement with #3 take a look in the mirror and ask yourself why you continue to vote for the same people over and over again who promise you the world and betray your trust? If your excuse for re-electing the same people (Democrats) because you just cant stand the risk of the other party getting back into control then you too aren't thinking clearly.You are voting on emotion and talking points and are acting like a cult follower. You did it in 2008 and you have been pissed off every since (for good reason). But you are not helping toward "change" if you continue to take a beating and you return back for more. Don't be a dummy and think that politicians are your friends! So if you also avoid voting you just might be doing the rest of us a favor too. Go home, think carefully for a few hours then perhaps reconsider.

5. And perhaps I should have put this FIRST, but along with the idiots who use the "teabagger" phrase, the equally stupid people who should avoid voting are those who's ONLY arugement to voting against a democratic congressman is over Nancy Pelosi. The big red "Fire Pelosi" bus that drove across the country might have been a nice way to see some superstar political type like Uncle Michael Steele (his name ain't tom) and if that's what you like then fine. But you "anti Pelosi" republicans are about to elect people who haven't cited real good reasons to elect a new congress person. All you want is to regain power. You want a repeat of 1994 and you aren't smart enough to realize that it didn't work out the last time. Same emotion, same stupidity and if you dumbasses vote tomorrow we are likely going to have the same result. Going in circles all over again.

6. IF YOU ARE NOT INFORMED ON THE ISSUES AND THE CANDIDATES, then you are not prepared to vote. This means you could be at risk of helping to elect another political clown to serve/screw you and your community. Perhaps you should NOT go to the polls and help mess things up or if you do you only vote for the things you actually know about. Likely that won't be much.

7. IF YOU VOTE STRAIGHT PARTY TICKETS you are a DANGEROUS voter. You are a CULTIST! Following with only a strict dedication to any specific political party is like a religion. You are not using an open mind. You refuse to listen to the "other" side. And sadly, this is MOST voters. You are people who claim to embrace "change" and claim to like "freedom" but your dedication to partisian politics is hyprocrital to that. And while so many people in previous generations fought and died for us to have the "right" to vote you partisian voters spit on the graves of our ancestors with your traditional repetitive partisian votes. Perhaps if some of you would consider respecting the legacy of those ancestors by avoiding the polls tomorrow then this country will have a chance to finally progress in something worthy of the dream that our ancestors had.


I no longer will get upset at low voter turnout. If there is a lower voter turnout then I sincerely hope that means that the emotional, uninformed and STUPID people stayed away and allowed people with a clear and informed mind to determine the course of our nation.

So if you really love the USA, you will seriously consider who you allow to vote. Keep the DUMB MASSES away from the polls!

Friday, October 01, 2010

Maybe Someday We Will All Be Free

As we continue the long fight for equality I often refer to a gem within my personal music collection. A song I grew up listening to and its embedded within my soul. An idea, a dream that so many of us continue working to make a reality. Maybe "Someday we'll ALL be free".

Just listen!



Remembering Donny Hathaway on his birthday, October 1, 1945. He was one of the best talents in the history of R&B music but depression and other health issues led to his taking his own life on January 13, 1979.

At the time of his death, he and his frequent duet partner Roberta Flack were recording music for a new album and this is my all time favorite of the Donny Hathaway-Roberta Flack duets, "Back Together Again".



Donny Hathaway was a fantastic live performer as heard in this recording of "Sack Full Of Dreams".



I could go on and on with Donny Hathaway selections but time only permits a few. So lets just say by using the title of another favorite by saying that I "LOVE LOVE LOVE" some Donny Hathaway music.